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The third day we booked in the social service for him to sort out the transport for the extended family to come over from the regional area for the day visit on the fourth day.
On the fourth day, when I was with him again, he was out of it. All through our handover, he was pacing around his room asking if he could pack up and leave the hospital at his own risk (自负其责). The other nurse was very much in a rush due to another critical patient of hers, so she simply ran by him the hospital policy and informed him that he was a voluntary (自愿的) patient, if he insisted on discharging himself, nobody could hold him in the hospital against his will (违背他的意志) as long as he signs the form.
After the other nurse left, I sat down in his room and stated: Hey, John, look at your unhappy face, it's not whom I know. You seemed to be bothered very much by something serious, what was that all about?
Then, he sat down with his face buried in his hands: My family was here today, they were pissed off by what I decided on my coming operation. I knew they would bitch about it, and they did. All the time they were here, they did nothing but bitched about it.
For a moment, I suddenly realized the culture difference between aboriginal people and the rest of us: John, was that the culture they were concerned about?
John: As far as I see, the culture difference means nothing to me in the free world. This is my life, nobody else can live it for me. I got all my children who means the world to me, it's too early for me to say goodbye to them.
I said nothing but put my hand on his shoulder, indicating to him that I was listening to him.
John continued: There was no sympathy, no encouragement, no support from any one of them. All they did was just bitching about how bad my decision was.
I stated: John, you are a mentally competent person who can make a sound decision on their own medical treatment. You should believe in yourself on your own perception and judgement.
John: Yeah, I am sure I made rational decision on my own treatment. This is life-and-death decision, for god's sake. My son, nephew and younger sister all died under my watch, I wouldn't let that happen to me if something could be done about it.
Me: Sounds very reasonable to me!
John: All the way through my childhood to adult, nobody was ever around to help me grow up, I was all on my own to figure it out how to turn out to be who I am today. Now, in the crucial time in my life, they all showed up to judge me, to direct me.
Me: Yeah, John. I can tell that you did a good job growing up. You appear to be a very well-mannered, very well-spoken gentleman to me.
John: I appreciate the recognition, mate. I told my extended family when they left the ward: If they would like to show up during my operation and recovery, please show their support. If not, don't even bother to make their presence, I will do it all on my own.
Me: Sorry, John. I should have realized there is a special social service named aboriginal affair, would you like to talk to them? Maybe, with someone knowing exactly what the culture is about, problems could be sorted out in a better way.
John: Maybe I need to talk to them regarding my medial power of attorney, just in case some complications happen to me, during which someone is needed to make sound decisions on my behalf.
Me: Sure, I will see to get that done (负责把这件事儿做好).
John: Thanks, mate. You are a good listener!
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