中国日报：温馨情人节 且听同志爱侣诉说爱与忧

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　　淡蓝网编者注：2月14日情人节之际，《中国日报》采访了淡蓝网编辑流星和他的BF小毅，把他们的爱情故事呈现给了世人，同篇报道的还有其他异性恋者的爱情故事。文章见报后，引起了很大的反响，特别是在《中国日报》的网站上，一天时间就有十数篇来自国内外网友的评论，分别给予了积极和肯定的回应。中国官方的报纸再次正面报道同志爱情，让我们的这个情人节过得不再那么灰色。

                               
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流星和小毅

     由于今年的情人节和春节巧合相逢，许多年轻恋人纷纷抓住时机和未婚夫（妻）过二人世界，尽管是在这令人恐惧的双节撞车。但是，对于小毅和流星来说，这却始终是一个奢望。
　　他们彼此都有稳定的工作，收入颇丰。他们对彼此忠贞不渝，极少吵架闹矛盾。他们生于同一天，穿同一码的鞋。还有一点，就是，他们都是男人。
　　“我们四年前在danlan.org的一个聊天室邂逅，一年之后的3月14号，我们搬住到了一起。那是在亚洲国家很流行的白色情人节，而现在却变成了我们的纪念日。”流星对记者METRO说。
　　“他给了我一个戒指。像其他的情侣一样，戒指代表爱情和信任。”流星抚摸着他左手那枚白金戒指，笑着对小毅说。
　　流星工作于淡蓝网（一个创立于2000年的大型的中国同志网站）。这个网站一天有将近80，000次的浏览量，并且注册用户已经超过百万。
　　“许多人对同志怀有偏见，他们觉得在线同志聊天室是淫秽不健康的。但事实上，我们也是正常的伴侣。我们彼此相信真爱，并坚持'一夫一妻制'。”小毅说。
　　27岁的小毅生于重庆，并在北京某所大学有四年的大学时代。他说他孩提时代就知道了自己的性取向。
　　“我喜欢和女孩玩游戏，并很愿意做一个离群的男孩。”回忆起往事，小毅颇有感触。
　　“我想我是孤僻的，总感觉自己很孤独，直到我发现很多圈中朋友也经历着和我一样的困扰。与他们的交流，我渐渐发觉自己并不是病态，并渐渐培养足够勇气去接受这个事实。”他说。
　　对小毅和流星来说，坠入爱河使他们的爱情不仅甜蜜而且是水到渠成般的默契。
　　“我们共享衣服和鞋子，这样可以省下一大笔钱，”流星开玩笑说，“作为男人，我们有很多共同点，包括我们的生活和思考方式。”
　　他还说，他的同志伴侣能深切地理解和体谅彼此工作和生活中的压力。
　　“我们共享一切。”流星加了一句。
　　尽管处境看起来完美，但他们还是不敢把自己的甜蜜生活分享给他们的父母。
　　“我不觉得我们的父母可以接受这个事实，”流星说，“如果他们不能接受，我就找个拉拉（女同性恋者）结婚。这样不仅满足了家庭的需要，也不会破坏我们之间的爱情。”
　　当谈论到有没有打算要一个小孩的问题时，流星坦言他们都很喜欢小孩，并且以后会收养一个孩子。
　　“我们对未来充满憧憬，我们想像别的情侣一样结婚、育子，被我们的家庭和整个社会接受。”小毅坚定地说。
　　他告诉METRO，他们曾经目睹了一对同志情侣的婚礼，是去前的情人节前门大街上那对甜蜜恋人让他们很是钦佩和羡慕。
　　“我就要回家过年了，但我答应小毅我会回来和他一起共度情人节。”流星说。
　　他还说，他们将在虎年策划一次泰国游，感受异国风情。
　　“我们从来没有一起出去旅游过，所以我们想把这次旅行当作我们的蜜月之旅。”流星充满期待。
　　据卫生部2006年颁布的数据，中国大陆大约有500万到1000万的同性恋者，年龄跨度从15到65均有。但是，著名的社会学家李银河把这个数字定位在3600万到4800万，远远高于卫生部数据。
　　来自青岛大学的张北川教授和其他学者，包括李银河，都呼吁政府认可并让同志婚姻合法化，但政府至今仍未给予积极的回应。(淡蓝志愿者小亮翻译，《中国日报》原文>>)

[ 本帖最后由 choz 于 16-2-2010 15:24 编辑 ]

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Since Valentine's Day falls on thesame day as Spring Festival this year, most young lovers will seize thechance for that scary first encounter with the future in-laws - but forXiao Yi and Liu Xing, this remains an extravagant hope.
They both hold respectable jobs with goodsalaries. They are devoted to each other and rarely argue. They wereborn on the same day and wear the same sized shoes. And they are bothmen.
"We met four years ago in a chat room ondanlan.org, and moved in together after one year on March 14. This isWhite Valentine's Day, popular in some Asian countries, and has nowbecome our anniversary," Liu told METRO.
"He gave me a ring. Just like othercouples, rings represent love and trust," Liu said with a smile to XiaoYi, touching the platinum band on his left hand.

                               
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Liu Xing (left) and his partner Xiao Yi want to have their own lovers' day. [Wang Jing]

Liu currently works for danlan.org, a largeChinese gay website set up in 2000. The website has more than 80,000views per day with at least a million registered users.
"Most people are prejudiced against gaypeople and believe online gay chat rooms are obscene and unhealthy. Butactually, we are the same as normal couples - we also believe in loveand monogamy," Xiao Yi said.
Xiao, 27, was born in Chongqing and spentfour years in a Beijing college. He said he first discovered hissexuality as a child.
"I loved playing games with girls and was happy to be around boys," he said.
"I thought I was autistic and felt verylonely until I realized my gay friends were experiencing the same kindsof things. By chatting with them I learned that I was not ill, and Ibuilt up enough courage to accept it," he said.
For Xiao Yi and Liu Xing, falling in love with a man made their loves not only happier but also easier.
"We can swap our clothes and shoes, whichsaves loads of money," Liu joked. "Both of us are men and we have a lotin common, including our lifestyles and our way of thinking."
He said his gay lover could understand the great pressures of work and life.
"We share all things," Liu added.
Despite the apparent perfect situation, both men are anxious about telling their parents about their happy lives.
"I don't think our parents will accept it,"Liu said. "If they can't, I might choose to marry a lesbian. That wouldsatisfy the needs of my family and wouldn't destroy what we have."
When discussing the possibility of a child, Liu said they love children very much and would like to adopt a baby in the future.
"We have lots of dreams for the future. Wewant to marry like other couples, have a child, and be accepted by ourfamilies and society," Xiao said.
He told METRO they witnessed a weddingceremony between two homosexual couples in Qianmen Street onValentine's Day last year and really admired them.
"I have to go home for New Year's Eve, but I promised Xiao Yi I would be back for Valentine's Day," Liu said.
He added that they planned to travel in Thailand in the coming Tiger year.
"We have never traveled together before, so we will consider that trip as our honeymoon," he said.
According to statistics released by theMinistry of Health in 2006, there are an estimated five to 10 millionhomosexuals in the Chinese mainland, aged between 15 and 65. However,renowned sociologist Li Yinhe, put the figure much higher at between 36and 48 million.
Professor Zhang Beichuan from QingdaoUniversity and various other scholars, including Li Yinhe, have calledon the government to recognize and legalize same-sex marriages inChina. There has been no response from the government so far. (By YangWanli , China Daily)


[ 本帖最后由 choz 于 16-2-2010 15:23 编辑 ]