I don't agree...here a lot of mums and dads looking after their babies by their own...it's not difficult...you will survive...the important thing is, as a family, you have to be together...that's something I think is more important than others...
by the way, in OZ, local australians never get help from their parents...they have more than one kid at home...they can do it...you, as a Chinese, won't fail it...can do better...